Twin beds the family style love

 Previous marriage, then laughed at the French writer Michel de Montaigne
: a good marriage is the wife of the blind and deaf to the composition of the husband.
Western saying: marry because we do not understand, because understanding of the separation.
When does the right of marriage: Some say the time is less than young, when older, to have the time, no time is the right one.
British scientist George Bernard Shaw drama: his wife did not die when this issues (marriage) can not speak.
German philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche: There are some men who lament his wife was abducted, his wife, most men lament that no one is willing to abduct.
Marriage is the tomb of love it? love and marriage really is an irreconcilable contradiction? marriage really is Rising up?
Indeed, if gender is a clever invention of nature, then the marriage is one of the most awkward of human invention. Since the human the invention of the machine, it always go wrong, it allows us to fix it for debugging headache, but so far the human intelligence, not yet invented a better machine, and he dealt with that enough to deserve ingenious invention.
three factors of gender relations, sexuality, love and marriage. of the pursuit of happiness, the pursuit of the ideals of love, marriage is about reality. these three there are often contradictory. lies in the difficulty of marriage should unify these three.
marriage function
production and consumption (that is, yes, how much, huh, huh)

sexual reproduction and education (of happiness in marriage within the main settlement)
Love (which is the source of many problems of marriage, if you do not speak words of love, marriage does not matter. If we ask is a love-based marriage, it is clear there is no love, marriage will collapse. but love itself is easy to change a thing, so the more we emphasize that marriage is the foundation of love, marriage, the less stable. Marriage is for love has drawbacks: First, is a romantic love, marriage is very real, everyday life is trivial, do not go often romantic; Second, the old together in harmony, from so near, prone to feeling tired, we can not deny that the so-called aesthetic fatigue; thirty because too close, too easy to not value, that is such a thing, and courtship When you're going to pursue him or her to discuss his or her favor,)
how to make the marriage does not become a grave
Note 1. marriage love love and love is different.
2. From love to marriage, from outside the city to city, you should pay attention to the city has many drawbacks, we must overcome.
marriage is what love does?
marriage is a family-style love love.
romantic love is not lasting, so-called manifestations of romantic love is love at first sight, ecstasy heartbroken, mesmerizing, inextricably, so that the state may last forever? impossible, not to marry The same can not, so this can not blame the marriage. because it is dependent on the feelings between two people of the strangeness, freshness, rely on some kind of adventure, and even rely on some sort of taboo pleasure, affair. romantic love is usually found in marriage and marriage before, the general love for example, unmarried men and women fall in love before marriage, or there is such a passionate affair, most will continue to exist in the early stages of marriage, with the growth of marriageable age will inevitably decline, but to pay attention to this responsibility is not marriage itself, but rather the nature of such feelings it is impossible to determine the long-term. so we need to find another form of existence of love, a strong love.
British writer Jonathan Swift: What's inside paradise, we do not know nothing, we know clearly that there is no marriage.
good marriage is a human, a bad marriage is hell, do not expect to find in marriage Paradise, however, who after all, is to live in the world, the human freedom of its own world of fun, for heaven do not have.
Romantic love, if it is sustained, it will inevitably transformed into a family-style love, that is, inside the romantic factor is reduced, perhaps there will be a romantic time, but it is no longer important, not the main thing, then if two people's feelings at that time still very good, then the most important thing is a kind of mutual understanding and trust, two people understanding patterns of behavior. This is much like the feelings of affection, and is a person's feelings, but it is not by blood relationship, is to the sexual development. So call it for the family-style love. to such feelings as the basis for marriage is not only solid, but also high quality.
course, I do not deny that two people already have very deep feelings, and is already a family-style love, and also may also change. because the world is full of temptation. but be careful this time, first of all, you can guarantee that you get this new romance, and bound to the love you've got the quality high? This is difficult to ensure that it is possible a little worse. But as long as you try, the marriage is likely to be dissolved, there are many examples of this already has. Second, if this is really good romantic love plays, but To take into account that you tell him or her with the future, that romantic love is the same type to be converted into family love. It can not go on forever romantic. The law you are able to escape to.
grass is always greener is human only human, but people there are even more profound aspect of the Qing, that is, love it nostalgia, a person can not always be young and will one day find that the most cherished in life is always the kind of partner vicissitudes of love, the lasting harmonious married life, two lives have you have me, I have you, grow together camel flesh and blood, together with numerous small precious memories, like a priceless treasure, a mere two belong to them can not be transferred to another person who can not pass the peculiar property of the descendants, after all you are and who there had the property, that is who you are and the destiny of this life there was, and this feeling had each other than partners, the most romantic affair, and only became a solo.