Cold to human relations at surgery is one of the most astute move. Clever clever man, do things in a long glance, no one likes. The smart person does not stop there, they are good opportunistic, and even create the illusion, like a brilliant magician.
obviously is easy to ask, and gives the impression that they are gracious; had a no merit, but it can fall on both sides of a good, big drop human claims.
there is a relationship Can play to win sympathy for the poor; praise earned by low-cost noble thing; a virtual tour title to encourage energy; clearly derogatory celebrity real strong praise a deeper impression, are ripping ripping the cold to the law.
commercial areas often cold to the game, to small for large. Such as donations, charity, none other public welfare activities and so on, the surface-funded non-profit or even Also, Entrepreneurs should also be good at manipulating people, learn to cold to.
1. both to take advantage of, and fall into the situation in the Yuan Dynasty peasant uprising, separatist warlords, in which Chu Yuan-chun, Chen Youliang and Zhang Shicheng more powerful. They want to eat each other, lord, and thus to attack each other.
1366 年 5 months, Chu Yuan-Zhang Friends shocked by Chen and Zhang Shi combined with the corresponding day of talks between two fires. The two sides are engaged in a bloody battle in the dangerous situation, the Jiangbei sudden change in the situation. Liu Xiao Ming Wang Hanlin children and sent through three Northern Expedition, was back and defeat the military element. An Feng Xiaoming retreat after work, but to send general Lu Zhen Zhang Shicheng Anfeng siege, the situation is very critical. Repeatedly sent to the emperor small ming recruitment siege. That day, the emperor military conference held to discuss the problem of sending troops predicament, it was talking about, the commanders are opposed to sending troops, even the army, division, Liu Ji also strongly disagreed. The emperor against all the odds, insidiously told us that:
Why is willing to take the risk the emperor? Cunning treachery of the emperor ghost of his own thinking. He believes that security should be days of barriers Feng, An abundance of fall, your day should be exposed to enemy attack, the rescue is to protect safety and abundance should be days; The small Ming Wang, in his red scarves and the working class masses of the largest charismatic, is a flag. Little respect for his emperor-based Ming Wang, playing his dragon flag, a small-Ming Wang is the use of influence to fight for the people, and secondly, the spearhead of the first directed against enemy small Ming Wang, is to attempt to achieve greater his future. So, he personally led his army north, Shatui head Jane, to keep the security abundance. Ming of zero does not appreciate small tears. Emperor exploit a victory return in triumph, and Chen in the Department of the Friends of the Poyang Lake after a battle, Chen Youliang defeat in his death. After the emperor won a great victory, the banner name of a small Ming Wang, also has been called Wu Guogong.
On Harvest, the emperor determined to work Xiaoming control in their hands. He first everywhere cold to put the small ming welcome to Chuzhou, in Chuzhou to small Ming Wang built the towering palace, arranged mighty imperial drive guards of honor, rich food and gorgeous costumes, sly promptly arrange for cronies, and Xiao Ming is the embargo, isolation and even to serve small-Ming Wang of the palace staff all put their own men. Since then, all the small Ming Wang, all in the hands of the emperor. Later, the emperor of the total Youyi Collateral is no longer of value to kill the little Ming Wang, and dying, the little emperor Ming Wang is also obsessed with great kindness. Chu Yuan-chun, won by the cold to both country and popular.
cold to the supreme effort than this: obviously the advantage, or even induced to die, and gives the impression that they give mercy. He will not let others express their own interests, but it played into the interests of others, so that when he looks as if by thinking someone else a favor. King of the United States eloquence Carnegie
an experience, can be used as cold to the model. He is such a request to increase the rent a hotel manager to dispel the idea: I was on a quarterly basis in New York, rented a large hotel auditorium at 20 to teach social training courses.
a quarter, I started teaching, he suddenly received a notice, asking me to pay three times more than the original rent. And the news comes before the tickets have been printed, and had sent out, and other matters have been completed for commencement. How can we make involves a success? They are interested in what they want. Two days later, I went to manager.
the hotel manager, your responsibility is to ask the hotel as much as possible profit. you do not do it, your manager to keep a rare position, nor should they secure. If you insist on an increase in rent, let us together ~ next so good or bad for you. the. because of such activities, held not long, they can pay high rents ~ times more than my rent, of course much more. leased to me, obviously you suffer a great deal out. find other places from the training. , for you, this not play a role not to spend money advertising it? In fact, if you spend 5,000 dollars on newspaper ads, you can not invite so many people in person to visit your hotel may I invite you to the Course. Is it uneconomical to do?
Here I would like to draw your attention to my success in the process, there is no word on what I want about it, I was on his point of view to the problem.
put the interests of others on the daylight, darkness will fall on their own benefits, not only for their own purposes, and can be each other's favor. Cold to do is the most sophisticated art of manipulation.
2. sugarcane to two sweet late Qing Dynasty, Hunan has a single-boat Springs Road. This is good at observation, arranges everything. So the size of official admiration.
One year, a travel of foreigners to go shopping, some children are not seen by foreigners, they chase him. Foreigners are angry that the children holding a stick. There is a children dodge was shot in the temple, not long after he died. Child's parents refused to Ganxiu course, come together, to grasp that foreigners. Cookin Foreign stick is raised, even to sit and watch a few people who have been wounded. This provoked outrage, we came up together, caught that foreigners hold a rope tied him up and sent to the Yamen. Because it is human life, and also foreigners, so very difficult.
single-channel units fell to the hands of the matter, he is indeed the official veteran, and rich experience in handling cases, will be cold to trick with ease immediately. On the one hand he believes many of Hunan rich man, and the folk customs and opening up, if done properly, they will speak up, or assembling a crowd to make things difficult for foreigners, then, foreigners can not do to Treatment, Treatment and can not do without. Difficult as the situation on the first official to tell them, ask them to help me officialdom. As long as the gentleman, people move public outcry, came forward a hard fight with the foreign consuls, the formation of stalemate, the foreign consuls to see people act, they will be afraid, because foreigners afraid of the people. By this time, and then from official to come forward, to subdue the people and told people not to trouble. Because people fear government, so they will listen. The foreign consuls to see him subdue the people will thank the official.
like a good idea, he soon will visit several powerful gentry, they all join hands to argue with the consular. If have to win, not only the people cause, but also for our country face. His words got out, everyone says it is a good single-channel station officials, to safeguard the interests of the people. He went to the Consular Department, told the consul, lighter sentence if the case, I am afraid the people against. Foreign consular hearing him say, looked at the crowd gathered outside, really scared. Single-channel station said: But the single-channel units are to benefit both sides: Futai boast that he handled well, it will work; consular grateful heart, he put down the people, there is no sudden thing to, so for him to speak good words; and gentlemen, has been that he is to maintain people .
this cold to meet the key to a bilateral initiative psychological manipulation of people, good at grasping the psychological clever two rounders, two off the good. Visible effort to do just to please the home, and then take the initiative to do things some sweet sugar cane also ends.
3. to play the victim in ancient Chinese history, common examples of eunuch, and the emperor can not seem to learn. Emperor Han, the favoritism stone were eunuchs. Stone was been called Zhongshu Ling, affairs of state affairs by the stone was the size of awards. Stone was man wicked ambition, but also the constant fear that one day the emperor said that he heard bad things about people around and against him, I managed to express loyalty to the emperor, the emperor to deepen their trust. Time, Stone was sent to the Palace of running was something. He feels this is a test of people around him a golden opportunity for his attitude, so clearance to play the emperor, said he worried that after finishing it after the late, Weiyang Palace palace was closed and could not come, the emperor issued an edict request to guard, so that they left him the door. Immediately to the palace guard the emperor issued a oral instructions. Stone was deliberately delayed the time to stay in the government as much as possible until the middle of the night did not come back, let the guard opened the door and into his harem, and later turned informant was a letter to child care next to the Chao Jiao Shi was opened without authorization palace. After the emperor to see, laugh and discovered that letter was read a letter to Stone. Stone was in tears, to make a special innocent look, said: Only one letter will not be revealed, may later be expected. For this hearsay evidence, then the emperor only by your insight into the Holy Spirit. Wei Chen was born cold rustic, really can not make everyone satisfied with a mere one can not weather the thing in the world blame. I am willing to resign from office now to receive the sent Temple sweep cleaning to show my loyalty to His Majesty the heart, nothing to hate death. only hope His Majesty will believe me. He moved, blinded, so I believe him, not only would not let him resign, but many comfort, encouragement of labor, let him do it right and give him more reward than in the past, stone was even more glory together.
poor play to win sympathy in selling well-behaved, achieve their goals. Children looked painful, helpless to adults agreed requirements; ragged beggar always please the charity; dismissal love with the boss Swing hard, pour down grievances, reducing each other's discontent.
child is cold to master, and the elderly are not weaker than them. Consider the following story: Before lunch, Aqiao saw a old man in rags, a water outside the bar about 5 cm deep pool of water fishing. Aqiao curiously stopped. After the fish were all around us, all that this man is a fool.
Eqiao compassion can not help but move, he said kindly to the fishing: . Eqiao who bought a fishing Jizhong drink, then asked: fisherman replied humorously.
4. zero cost to buy good intention is no coincidence. Some smart people fall favors, do not buy inputs from the number of people may also achieve the objective. How do they do manipulate the ease of it? Cite some examples, summarizes the cold to summarize their experience; ① reward a nice title. Regardless of any industry, any job, if not a higher status as we work incentives, the absolute level can not be encouraged to enhance personal ambitions.
former business people called the salesman, but an intelligent director, put it to title. Job content did not change the fact, but has increased the role of their social status, so that they attach importance to their work, to play a higher work potential.
Japanese seem to know best how to encourage employees to use this method, what 'Inspector
past, ZHAO Zheng get a piece of jade in America, it makes carved jade grams, said: Yu-Ang toast, Zhu Weigong sub Xinling Jun health. Weigong Zi salute to thank and appreciate only the blood is a precious jade. Later, they sent troops to attack Yan Zhao, Zhao will be pretty straightforward in the Department of South broke YAN Jun, Zhao Xiaocheng no other reward work, to use only five soldiers were drinking cup to the celebration. soldiers who use it to drink, very happy. After that, Zhao Yu Zhong people Who can drink this cup of wine, get a few more than ring to the income for the salary, reward also feel valuable.
③ to a glamorous statement.
personal state of Song, is like a monkey, and raised a large group. a long time, he can understand the monkey's mind, the monkeys can understand his thinking. In order to keep good this group of monkeys, to meet the needs of the monkey, he was not even a person's living expenses are reduced.
But then after a period of time, life more difficult, the monkeys had to limit food intake, and they worry that the monkeys so tame and not listen to him. So he trick the monkeys, said: the evening to four, and finally good enough to eat it! , ever heard of the boss of rap tone of the guests said, small noodle noodles taste Road, he was not aware of any special, worth it all the way came to enjoy. are wondering, a friend wiped the mouth, contentedly say, this is her first three years into the community must report daily place twice. This shop is really nothing much to recommend them, except the boss of the kind and memorable. presumably, is that her friends miss the taste of the mother.
like this restaurant, boss and customers The relationship between very subtle. They denounced the attitude of gentle, wandering will happen to make up for feelings of homesickness. and this is such a prime reason for the small restaurant business. This type of operators are seemingly straightforward character, but in fact, often is spoiled by the customer psychology, and, dependent on the customer's return on the corresponding emotion.
⑤ boldly on the strong derogatory.
a well-known radio host on the program often Using this trick. In three years of experience cooking in front of a large chef, he would most likely be the other side say that is nonsense to say. such as it? , it may be because this gentleman has some torque on the character. but he is not, regardless of the object, at any time even if the rhetoric was discounted and generally have a laugh at the gas.
addition, belittle or criticize the other place has often been praised, but also enable others to deepen the impression of each other. However, this the art, are not repeated here.
5. drop a small taste of adult lean hanger Jun Feng then began to grumble about not being reused, then get Mengchang courtesy. a Mengchang sent to his fief Xue Yap debt collection, Feng assistance to introduce ourselves, and asked: I wonder if the money used to recover, you need to buy anything? Yi Jun taste, said: Our family did not have to buy something positive! von pick kicked away, the result that bond burned Do not take the article. poor people did not expect Mengchang Xue Yi so Rende, all moved to tears. von take back, try Jun Yi Q: discuss the Falcon it? Feng potential replied: Falcon did not recover, borrowing The bonds are also burned. Mengchang very upset. von granted: you are not told the buyer does not want me to say something back? I buy you back, this is the effect, bought the righteousness of your people, but reverted to a lot of good ah! few years later, Yi Jun was framed taste, phase lost back fief Xue Yi. people hear Jun Yi taste back, the whole city out, a warm welcome offered to support him. Yi Jun was very moved to try to understand the von assistance a good way.
chairman of a company's home, each end of the year, will receive a mountain of gifts. because of too many, and people gifts and gifts are also many inconsistencies. so I heard this leaving only the desired bit, chairman of the gift, the rest are returned to stores.
However, a year end of the year, but think of the chairman to receive a gift to his satisfaction! that was popular in the United States The deeply their sincerity.
was present at a lecture sponsored by electrical manufacturers. After the speech, on to the station to the organizers of the officers inadvertently mentioned I do not know how to lecture the host manager to find out, even to this man's mother lived to visiting the hospital. This man shocked the organizers, while unexpected kindness, gratitude can not be made the table.
from two stories can be found, some people have a direct interest of the party gifts, often take for granted the other party to accept, and even sometimes think: whether there is any motive, arising from vigilance. However, not its while I am deeply concerned about his family, the other will think: is also a means to have effect.
a company received a customer, is always man's wife served. only if the customer only entertain, but the exchange of interests, similar to the relationship between shopping malls, but the ladies join, it will become less formal relationship. Further, from a theoretical position into the friendship of the situation. and little opportunity to participate in the banquet the ladies, the company will be very grateful for the thoughtful, wife of such sentiments , should also convey to the President. So will unconsciously on the reception the company cold to earn more is to be In mid-August launch of a Tracking the subject of age, ~ time aroused great concern within a week of people flocked to Nanjing University and students no less than 20,000 people. If you want to know, target audience, the original it is a cleaning products company, the manager for trial, preferential sale of the company's cosmetics. With the enthusiasm of the press spread Sai Feier fame in the community sort of a small cyclone swept ~ array. And the whole event, the organizer funded only four or five thousand dollars, This fee is not enough in a short television advertisement broadcast during prime time. will not forget it and then to have it in due course.
by 'cough advertising As we all know, Tiananmen Square and Tiananmen Square is strictly refused any form of advertising's Fortunately, those who always fall into the hands of good people who seize the opportunity. The annual painting Tiananmen Square, with people seemingly unrelated, has aroused the concern of a wise man. M in the National Day anniversary, the general manager of Tianjin Huaqi company made a special trip to Beijing, will be a 50 million check to the Tiananmen Square management committee. Ceremony, invited the central, relevant departments of Beijing and Tianjin, people, events, named a VIP lounge decorated tower, the country and around the world from the monument.
Finally, introduce a large popular promotional ones who enjoy the cold to instance.
1994 年 11 14, Nan Yuan, Hangzhou, department store started trial operation. Opened at the beginning of three initiatives launched at the same time, there is nothing new, there is momentum. Their innovation, one in none other promotions, there is no follow off a few people take for granted the practice of profit sharing, but do not earn a little every day benefit sale of a commodity, which people feel both the novel and reality. Second, in terms of oversight, the establishment of the Southern element Networking Desk, measuring customer review, justice, hanging on the wall than the more reliable customer guestbook. Third, the service, they are courtesy, door to door, etc., greatly broadened the scope of services, every night 6:3 (kr: 3o sent a . three initiatives, each a separate release, the public will cause a certain response. three initiatives launched at the same time, it will form a powerful propaganda for customers to shop, price, safety, service, etc., all-round experience When reputation, reputation. enterprises have opened in the face of public and interpersonal communication as the initial contact, easy to form a first impression. This is the first impression of the brain in the human preconceptions, often become the starting point of understanding each other, and to some extent affect and constrain the subsequent exchanges. Therefore, the enterprises in the opening test of the public relations industry is very important, companies should be cautious, cold to come up with their own merit. 6. good housewives to please male clients stopping by to discuss a guest Qiao is an important part of modern communication, as a man, a greater chance of this. When you think of something gay friends, colleagues, students and leadership of the house, or by same-sex friends invited to a guest, and you of the host family is not familiar or exchanges housewife is not deep, you have not thought about; how to win her enthusiasm and goodwill it? know, the host family is not your housewife bystanders but active participants in communication. win her passion , which for the completion of the task has a significant role in communication. If the host family housewife cold cold, indifferent, or Bierbuxian, it shows that she is very welcome. communicative effects can imagine.
< br> Men for the passengers, host family housewife how to win the enthusiasm and goodwill it?
① fixed point in the child, their brains.
the continuation of life a child is the parents, particularly mothers cherish their children love, and hope others will like her children. like the host family's child care and, in fact, respect for their parents. Therefore, in order to win the host family's passion for housewives, fixed point in the child, their brains. from the Communication Arts speaking, this curve is called the emotional investment. guest before, if there are kids know each other, according to the age of children with some gifts, such as fruit. toys, school supplies and so on. close to and care for children is also a lot of ways, such as active and children conversation, asking his name and explain the meaning of the name, then affectionately call on the few times, and try to remember the simplicity; asked about their children's learning, such as more free time, can give a child a story, a more simple and fun puzzles and general knowledge questions, and children can also play a game together, the children presented difficult problems, to try to be patient, try to give a satisfactory answer; meals, can help children like to eat some folder vegetables; leave, but also and children greeting. to try to find the children or the appearance, or intellectual, or in the habit of loving the advantages and superior features, and to give enthusiastic praise. any child always has its own advantages and characteristics, which in turn always is the training and education, and parents together, and praise the child, the mother of course, happy. In short, it is necessary role as a child, do not think does not matter.
② sure the master bedroom layout.
layout and furnishings within the family, often where the housewives devoted effort. Just as the person looks different, like the layout and furnishings within the family always vary, and some housewives like reading, there may be refined bookcase, and some housewives love music, piano, etc. may be expensive, the use of the internal layout and furnishings host family characteristics give appreciation and passion for winning a method housewife, which in effect is the appreciation of their personality. clean, housewives are concerned about the ~ items. Generally speaking, the humble home furnishings is a man's incompetence, and family health is not good, because I am afraid mainly housewives. Thus, the sincere compliment the room layout and furnishings, Xi Zizi housewives of course. Even if the host family's house is small, picked up the benefits of such a tribute can also win the goodwill of housewives. a store manager ~ position to teach an old classmate in high school house, a door praise, said: fruit, taking a dip in the tea. In particular, note that in the clean room, a guest must pay attention to clean, do not strum soot, throw shell and the like, even those who do not clean, we should pay attention. Notes, the most hated housewife is not hygienic, says Di guest pass.
③ in the housewife's skills, dot dress idea.
housewives more or less the general skills and expertise or cooking, or in weaving, or in tailoring. skill and expertise is often a reflection of ingenuity, wisdom and diligence. a lot of smart people, often nothing clumsy fine. If found to have some skill and expertise housewife, seize the opportunity to give praise, help to win the enthusiasm and goodwill. dinner,UGG shoes, found a particularly good taste of tea ~ Road, and thanks to its as a teacher, said the desire to go home like to do, which will greatly boost the enthusiasm of housewives. In dress, the woman is very sensitive. praised the men dressed, generally not too concerned about, and praised the woman dressed, you tend to be happy for a while, if, after praise, but also to state the specific reason, people think that non-professionals like the word, that delight to be housewives unusual. housewife own dress casually, even raunchy, but compared to her husband or children, and decent person, you can dress their staff in the , praised the housewife devoted to her husband and children love him, and will dress up, understand the wear, a good eye.
④ may wish to take the initiative to help on one.
to customers with a more , or have a meal or stay overnight, then the housewives will be busy, tea, washing fruits, groceries, vegetables, sorting rooms, and so many things, sometimes busy. If the child is still small, or are in similar understand not know the age, visitors may also take advantage of machine trouble. In this case, a guest may wish to take the initiative to help the men on the hand. do ancillary things, such as tea, vegetables, peeling bamboo shoots and the like, do not put a great master of the shelf, sitting tight. his dapper, inconvenience labor, can retreat to the side, so as not to affect the housewife labor, when necessary, may suspend talks with the man of the house, persuaded his wife to do something to help a man of the house. dining , may be invited to a seated housewife, and she expressed gratitude for their hard toil.
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