The use of the there is room to improve the air
. In this way, he can criticize freely, because he thinks you want him to do. : First, the consistency, that is, human beings have devoted more said she really like your idea for the new marketing, but you sure she is not really
like.
asked: A: Summer months
you want to know your son is not really want to participate in this year's summer camp.
asked: ah! will be very interesting! ; you like my new shop on board the deck you? ? br>
provide additional benefits to the implementation of
because they can drive us to action. Remember, if you have someone already in a state of action (whether it is thought
consciousness, or the level of body movement), then allowed to maintain this action
state will become very easy. For example, you want to Three Jia Zuozuo? Three means that the other party can hurry
make decisions, and not after ruminating whether the General Assembly made the right decision
.
u set a deadline for action. deadline limits our freedom, the opportunity to get something
few things, and the opportunities are fewer and fewer of the things that remind me of our more fervent hope.
to take this powerful force, we will take immediate action. < br> u the implementation of consistency For the convenience of easy steps, it will
like each other the right direction according to your expectations,
you win more opportunities for cooperation.
u people will not help you? or, simply throw off the arm and join you dry? It depends on their
you like and trust the extent of it! Remember, this is the most number one mental rules. Therefore, in order
improve the mental strategy in this section, you have to visit us in the first chapter introduces the techniques.
let people accept your proposal
1 moved by the The offer stands to reason that plan more, more logical, is no good. because you hardly affect his
.
our decision and ninety percent is made based on emotion. Then, we use the logic
prove, that our behavior more than justified. So, if only strictly logical truths, that
What has zero chance of persuading the other side. Look, you need to enlighten them with , urging us to move forward. At this time, to understand the direction and method of operation, it is very necessary. If we know
action programs have been designed properly, if we can clearly see the specific program of action, then we will feel safe and comfortable. So, if you want people satisfied that your gotta know how to go there!
3. lure them with negative, unpleasant consequences > Lord! is the winner
it!. ; has only a hint: You will win a piece of something new; and now it
sentence new? implies: you are risking the danger of losing something. This would create stronger motivation.
so , offer advice and suggestions, the other he kept talking about waste of money hh >. let him know that is consistent with previously done before. Do you remember? previous sections, we have said that people who are particular about
This new thinking side
style, as he always thought, the two are not deviated from the Department, then he He understands, understand that you do not think you hold all the answers. In this way, he will think you are more honest
earnest, more worthy of trust. for example, There
point incoherent phrases like: br> And most important, is do not forget: enthusiasm is contagious!
. Click here to policy act Baozhun satisfied that you can
the other side of the One of the biggest mistakes committed.
human behavior studies have shown that, when we feel that freedom is limited, we tend to thing. Oh, maybe human nature, which this when restricted free
. east, he just wishes west.
the possible large rejected. Yes, I know you have to say those words, because you will listen to your heart open
say those words out! Yes ah, if for you, feel that their wishes are not taken seriously, you will listen to your
others what The best approach is to let each other know in advance:
eventually do, he has the absolute right to speak. and then spread out the facts: the pros and cons are put before him
(we will not chapters, describes the necessity to do so.), and used in conjunction with other policies in this section
slightly.
strategy
u large inventory of our decision and ninety percent are emotionally based made. Then, we
be proved by logic, that our behavior more than justified. Therefore, in order to convince someone, you have to move them with
love.
u propose specific strategies clear that the specific process operations.
u provide
u if it were true, then remind him, in one sense, that he first came up with this idea.
u let him know his new way of thinking is really the same person ! remind him that his current letter
concept, behavior is consistent with previously done before.
u do not put an Ken Cheng
think you better, more reliable, then.
u remember that enthusiasm will be infectious! If you are not interested in their thoughts, others will not be interested in it
. < br> and let people keep their word!
let him know: Do you believe that he is trustworthy person! Zheshi Rang people .
you tell a friend, you computers are down. friends readily agreed, and he came as far as possible before next Saturday
to help you. Now, the question arises: he just casually talk about, performance-friendly it ? also
really really wanted to help you? However, you'd really need his help. In order to finalize this matter, you have to push in his heart
one: Let's talk he casually good intentions into firm commitments. you will find,
provided in accordance with the following effective psychological program, you can make a vague good intentions into a clear commitment to a concrete
啦!
busy, then the commitments so on a whole new level. So, you have to let him say those words to help the
. In this case, the next, you can say: you? let him help you determine the specific time and period of time: He finished about how long it takes. This
example, you can friend said: how long the repair
good? understand: his help has been incorporated into your plan, to be part of; also let him know:
promised that if he recovered, it will lead to a confusion. If his bad faith cause you will not have
What impact, then why must he help you? Anyway, your situation and would not help you more than when he promised to
waiting worse! Yes ah, he probably would have thought so. Therefore, this example, you have to let a friend know:
order to meet his time to come and help you to modify the original plan, cancel the other appointment. so
that will trigger his sense of responsibility, make him think help you For you, it is very important! with him if he did not mention to help you, you may
some appalling ; may be: you have to rush a report
computer, if not on time to pay is issued, you have to fall into the : Anyway, as long as act as a The strategy has to understand the power: when they show houses,
the house to the customer will think of their own home. they took to visit customers around the house when it
like to ask the question: ; you think, where the right TV set? for the real thing! not
special knowledge, you : promised to do that piece, so he believes that is true.
so stubborn person to change his mind!
nothing to do than pry open a closed heart, even more discouraged! However, with the following set of sophisticated psychological strategies, I believe that no matter what, you can make him an objective and fair to hear you. Not only that, the strategy can also pave the way for you to let you bypass each other resist barriers thing to say said:
over end, br> 3.
just one thing had happened to him, so he felt being used, manipulated. . Now, the idea is a departure from his usual
, no matter what things, and the whole body does not have to do with that thing does not work, he will not accept.
because he feel bad, felt they were not able to do decision, so find a safe place to hide
to avoid longer about others.
4.
his aversion to a particular situation. That is, he is not for you, but the point itself so he does not
comfortable. The point made him feel .
If you face the person is in the above, you will find that the debate is definitely with them effortlessly
white gas. you argue he split: your voice sound, his voice louder than you. logic in this hitting the wall: No matter what you say,
do, to no avail. Of course, if you can take a break, not paying lip service to
grinding war of words with his son,'d done the right thing.
If Do you believe people are rejected, and nothing more than the previous three. So then, you just use
ideas
on it.
u first two steps: strengthening the consistent
request stated that the change is more likely to approach and promised to help. So, you have an idea let him
or a recognized way of thinking, to offset the objection to his original holdings.
with this another way, no matter what attitude he is, you can completely change its mind quickly it!, for example, you want the boss to complete a return you to listen to new ideas. is very simple, you need only say: Do you want to allow themselves to be a spiritual
closed and conservative people?. attitude. because,
in front of you once the boss agreed to say that he consistent behavior.
this strategy is so effective is because human beings have a way for attitudes, beliefs and behavior consistent with strong demand
. If a man wants one thing and doing is another sets, then people will feel nervous take
get him wrong, calling him We will really have compliance with the attitude and behavior affect their future
. Here we will see the actual situation you can put forward more specific questions in order to strengthen each other
; internal consistency You can reach
this way, and his ability to accomplishing this add a little limited. Yes, he is vertical You
to Cuocuo the elan of his: let him feel has not he, that he do that, you also get what
stubborn ah? actually do, but let him want to do more about it! see? suddenly feel
freedom was restricted and driven by the self-consciousness in his subconscious the emergence of a fervent voice
desire to occupy the mind when,
Look, r things? ; the last three days! do not rush to take action. Yes ah, what good
it? Anyway, earlier, later have nothing to do, we is always to pick and choose. But once a
things, the limit is set to be different. At this time, whether we really want to get the original, I have more
we are interested in it! > Zhan Xiaohui the ring ready to end it? way, way, here it is critical: Ru Guo
other action made the decision then you set that limit to be Huajie 才行.
Now Let us then
was boss may feel opposed, so do you be the first step
closed minds and conservative people? issues, such as:
you say
agreed point of view, this view will take root in his heart, led him to produce ; second step Can you get into office. For example: just in time with the park to get their permission; need to decide which games to play
time, because to let everyone have fun; ah, phone who is responsible for it? hh ,
these enough! Now, look at what you have done the job? you make a stubborn person
listening to your ideas and agreed that also led him to reflect further on
the most conservative people, but also an opportunity for you to change their hearts. The following six tips, although not necessary according to a single full
income, but you really can be integrated into used together.
six super-secret
1.
change his physical condition when a person is stubborn, you're the only change is the br>'s emotional state is directly related to its physiological state. If he is ;.
do to prevent so-called walk; if he stood, then tried to get him to sit under
. If our body has been fixed and then our souls may also become a bit rigid.
agree with many of the same: people from fixed thinking the easiest way is to move his body.
spots slide
How great physical strength also! its emotional impact, simply people speechless!
since you can pro- Try, for example: sitting curled frowning, bow into the body of a shrimp, leg Su Zhao, under the head as far as possible to
; and then maintain this position for several minutes. Now, feel? you may feel terrible ! good,
stand up and walk around, waved his arms, shake your body, noted that there?
your entire emotional state have changed! Why? Because physical activity can let our hearts become soft
soft: the views of others, ways of thinking therefore more likely to move us. I do not know who gave you indoctrination, anti
is you believe: the older the person the more old-fashioned, easier for them to stay in a rut. should be said that the idea of truth in a
, because with increasing age, our body's elasticity and flexibility indeed .
give additional information, please reconsider before the other to provide some additional information. No one like behavior to change his mind, and
we expect far cry from the self-image. Moreover, even if he did not care, others will see how
it? we not become the stars of ;? Therefore, before seeking his consent, and then every time you
have to provide some additional information, or to remind him that he might have forgotten some of the information is also OK.
to do so, let him feel Additional information made under the , the more susceptible to the influence of others. That is, we see
own (only literal meaning, such as through a mirror) the more clearly, we more easily persuaded.
Therefore, in the mirror wall, or can see the shadows of the wall according to former conversation, can increase the chances of the other agreed.
4. let him know that you have been convinced he
Cialdini, Green, Rusch (1992) found that, had persuaded the other case you change your mind,
If I had you then his mind, then this when you ask him to change his mind, he will listen to you, If I had you turned him down, so this time he tends to reconsidered later if you
(in front of that conversation he mentioned the point of view), I think your idea makes sense, I'm like
into. I think you are right. is equal to make him understand that last time he did not lose because he finally convinced you
; then this it? Of course he was > easy to get out?
5. made both positive and negative views
study found that people who deal with the opposite point of view, you should use a > What stubborn it? Perhaps we can make such an assumption: there is at least part of his opinion based on facts. This
time if we uncompromising, hand, let him think you do not put his views seriously. So this kinds of cases,
if you simply view the two aspects (based on positive and negative arguments
think that the idea came from his own
This has several advantages. One of the most important thing is, he will be more recognition that way. Why?
because the method is to let him believe that his behavior and belief systems of a aspect is the same.
already brushed his mind now resistance, then, then you just encourage him to take action on it.
used to match the section XIII, !
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